Is “Shibari” racist? What about kinbaku? What aspects of our rope practice, is in fact, racist? Shibari. Kinbaku. Alien words to most people. These are Japanese words from the Japanese culture of rope bondage. Shibari means knots in direct translation. Kinbaku means tight binding. I see so many people using these terms, even as their […]
When we first join rope and kink spaces, we often feel very nervous. We don’t know what to expect nor how the people we meet may respond to us. We seek validation and acceptance of who we are, and perhaps people to play with. We often want to learn about the lifestyle and issues around […]
No one likes to be called racist. Well, except those proud racists, but they often only hate one particular group of people (eg black people, “foreigners”, Jewish people, Muslims, etc) where colour, religion or ethnicity is specifically targeted in some way. Regardless, it is still bigoted to hate on another group of people. When people […]
When I moved into my home, I found a rose quartz in a pond in my garden. For a long while it decorated my kitchen window seal. Then I discovered rope and I found a new use for it. I saw many photos of similar stones being used in rope bondage. It is often used […]
I know, the title is a tad silly. Rope events vary hugely and “running” any event involves many facets working together. A follower sent me a message on Instagram this week asking about how to get started. He and his wife love rope but can’t find anything near them in India. So, I thought with […]
As a “disabled” person myself, I have found it disheartening that so many rope and kink events are not accessible to differently bodied people. Covid disabled me, which has been quite a journey in of itself. Pre-covid, I hadn’t fully appreciated how important this issue is. I have tried my utmost to make my events […]
In these ties, I took imagery from popular anime, reflecting on the moments of deep insights in those fantastical contexts, and how it impacts my personal circumstances. Demon Slayer Instagram reel: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CctQJbgIjkiu5uougjGAWqXOcSrjqfieePfv8Q0/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= Lyrics: “If you close your eyes there’s a chance you’ll see moments locked away in your memories. Trapped within the past, we cannot […]
As a person with Post Covid19 Syndrome (Long Covid), fatigue is one of my main symptoms that has left a prolonged impact on my daily life. It’s affected my ability to do basic actions, work, play and engage with other people. It is very similar to other post viral conditions like CFS/ME, POTS, Lyme disease […]
Aftercare refers to the care we provide to ourselves and to our partners with after playing with them. Top, bottom, switch, dominant, submissive, whatever, we are all entitled to be looked after in the moments after the scene and during the dropping part of the process which can last for up to a few days. […]
I was recently asked a very good question by someone relatively new to rope, regarding how to manage the emotional impacts whilst untying a rope bottom. In that discussion, and in many similar ones with other people, it occurred to me just how little emphasis we put on the untying process. Which is sad. Because, […]