My new book Living Rope is out now! Available on Amazon and Kindle. GET YOUR COPY NOW! Living Rope explores the many facets of rope play, delving into the reasons and intentions of rope players, based on the author’s decade long experience. It also describes Dea Nexa’s approach to consent and relationships, and how identity […]
I’m so excited to announce the publication of my new book When She Leads. When She Leads is a book for anyone interested in or exploring female-led relationships and Femdom play. In this book, I explores common themes in the Femdom lifestyle and the impacts it has on our lives. Living or playing with the […]
New Bonds: A Relationship Coaching Toolkit for People Living Alternative Lifestyles New Bonds is a new person-centred approach to self-development and coaching toolkit for people living alternative lifestyles. Whether you are LGBTQ+, polyamorous, kinky, or want to explore your relationship preferences, this is the book for you. You will be invited to explore who you […]
Mission Statement Bristol Rope Space aims to provide a safe inclusive environment for all people to access rope education and to practice their rope skills. The focus is on building fundamental skills and the development of safe, sane and consensual rope practice. This is a space to develop self awareness and express ourselves in rope […]
The Kink Embrace is a valuable resource for anyone interested in kink or the kink lifestyle. The book explores the foundations of building kink experiences and relationships from an ethical and moral perspective. Each chapter goes into some depth of the common themes that kinky people encounter as they navigate the lifestyle. It covers fundamental […]
Most rope teachers will agree that rope should be accessible to all people interested in it. Consequently, access to quality rope education is crucial in this endeavour. So, we post free content, run affordable not-for-profit classes, and use our free time to help our peers in leadership and peers in rope. We aim, hopefully, for […]
Occasionally, there is scene drama and someone is accusing someone of abuse. And then the other person says they are the victim. So, people don’t know what to do and keep quiet. And the abuser gets away with it, again. It’s not good enough… Something to consider is that an abuser will shift blame and […]
People engage in rope play for many reasons, which I explore in my book Living Rope. People enjoy binding others or being bound, and this often rests on cultural interpretations of this taboo. Shibari is the term for Japanese style rope, which is rooted within its own cultural context. We should, therefore, be careful with […]
Over the last decade of working within rope and kink spaces, the issue of consent is unanimously agreed upon, but the nuances less so. One of the common debates around consent is what, if anything, can be done in public where people who you do not know or have not been involved in the negotiation […]
It is the holy month of Ramadan at the time of this publication. As a practicing Muslim, I thought I would take some time to explore common myths people have of my religion. Most people are taught to be frightened of Islam and Muslims, because it justifies actions by our governments in Muslim majority lands, […]
I have a ban list for my events, but it is not public. On the list are people that we, as a team, know have a history of abuse and harassment. All of us have been working in our community for a while and are respected, so people feel comfortable to disclose to us what […]
Rope is a drug. It’s addictive. It’s mind altering, and can reveal hidden truths about yourself. It can tap into parts of your brain otherwise unexplored, show you what is possible and what you are capable of. As a rope top or rope bottom your biochemistry changes in rope. Adrenaline, cortisol, endorphins are released into […]
Whilst running rope events, we will inevitably come across dangerous people wanting to access our spaces. Whether in person or online, we need to set clear rules on conduct, and at the same time communicate openly your willingness to ban such people from your event. You’d think it would be that straight forward. But, sadly, […]
Perhaps it’s because I’m in my 50s, or maybe it’s my chronic health conditions and disability, or the changes in the political arena, but I have felt a huge shift in myself in the last year. The hedonism of my 40’s has passed. My body’s changes invites new perspectives and needs. I no longer want […]
Living with long covid is not easy. It has disabled me and has drastically affected the rope play I can do. Self suspension is particularly challenging, since I’m in charge of all the planning and mitigation and self suspension is very demanding on my body. With some ideas from some fantastic self tiers in an […]