I’m so excited to announce the publication of my new book: “The Kink Embrace : A Foundation Guide to Kink Play and Relationships”. This os the book I wish I had when I first joined the kink community. It contains lots of useful information and insights into the kink lifestyle Start reading it for free […]
Rope Happy: A Comprehensive Guide to Self-Development for Rope and Kink Play, and Creating Fulfilling and Meaningful Experiences Feeling lost or overwhelmed with how to engage with rope and kink spaces? Do you want to develop meaningful experiences with rope? Do you need help with building rope and kink relationships with others? Then this is […]
A prevalent myth in the kink community is that “new people need to go to classes to learn about the lifestyle”. That is obviously true. But there’s a subtle implication that more seasoned players know what they’re doing and don’t need classes. They’ve read a few books. Know the lingo. Found people to play with. […]
No, I Won’t Tie You!
I sure as hell won’t suspend you! I get strangers asking me this all the time. People I’ve met maybe once, if at all, messaged a few times. They love my profiles, enjoy my writings, adore my blog, want to be the person in my photos. They take the bold step of asking me, because […]
Racism in Rope
Is “Shibari” racist? What about kinbaku? What aspects of our rope practice, is in fact, racist? Shibari. Kinbaku. Alien words to most people. These are Japanese words from the Japanese culture of rope bondage. Shibari means knots in direct translation. Kinbaku means tight binding. I see so many people using these terms, even as their […]
Rope Isn’t A Competition!
People can do as they choose. They can take whatever risks they want, and need to make themselves aware of those risks amd mitigate them accordingly. They can negotiate whatever scene they like, so long as they have the mutual trust and strong communication skills they need to do so. They can be motivated for […]
When we first join rope and kink spaces, we often feel very nervous. We don’t know what to expect nor how the people we meet may respond to us. We seek validation and acceptance of who we are, and perhaps people to play with. We often want to learn about the lifestyle and issues around […]
Why You Shouldn’t Go To Events
I’m writing this as an events organiser and facilitator. I write this as someone who has been active on my local scene for six and a half years… I remember joining my local community to find friends and a potential partner. I wanted to connect with like minded people and have fun. I read books […]
Rope Is Like Sex
Rope is like sex…. People want sex for different reasons. Some people want sex, some don’t. Some people like sex a certain way. People only want sex with a certain type of person they are attracted to. It depends on who you are with, if you want sex at any given moment. Sex is an […]
No one likes to be called racist. Well, except those proud racists, but they often only hate one particular group of people (eg black people, “foreigners”, Jewish people, Muslims, etc) where colour, religion or ethnicity is specifically targeted in some way. Regardless, it is still bigoted to hate on another group of people. When people […]
When I moved into my home, I found a rose quartz in a pond in my garden. For a long while it decorated my kitchen window seal. Then I discovered rope and I found a new use for it. I saw many photos of similar stones being used in rope bondage. It is often used […]