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New Bonds

New Bonds: A Relationship Coaching Toolkit for People Living Alternative Lifestyles FLASH SALE! THIS WEEKEND ONLY! eBook only 99p / 99c From Friday 1st September 8am GMT/PST to Mon 4th September 8am GMT New Bonds is a new person-centred approach to self-development and coaching toolkit for people living alternative lifestyles. Whether you are LGBTQ+, polyamorous, […]

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Classes

Bristol Rope Space (POC friendly)

Mission Statement Bristol Rope Space aims to provide a safe inclusive environment for all people to access rope education and to practice their rope skills. The focus is on building fundamental skills and the development of safe, sane and consensual rope practice. This is a space to develop self awareness and express ourselves in rope […]

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Books

The Kink Embrace

I’m so excited to announce the publication of my new book: “The Kink Embrace : A Foundation Guide to Kink Play and Relationships”. This is the book I wish I had when I first joined the kink community. It contains lots of useful information and insights into the kink lifestyle Start reading it for free […]

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Advice - Relationships

Romanticism and Rope

I have found there is a strong air of romanticism in some rope photography that I have seen. By romanticism, I do not mean the artistic period. I mean the feelings of romance and other worldliness of rope play, a step or two away from the reality of everyday life. Very often we see partially […]

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Advice - Running Events

Advice Notes Regarding Keeping People Safer From Abusers At Events

One of the most challenging parts of running rope or kink based events is ensuring a degree of safety for the attendees and those working at our events. I have felt the pressure to conform to practices that have lead to people being harmed within the kink community and even at events themselves. I have […]

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Advice - Relationships

There Must Always Be Consent

I often say that the difference between healthy kink and abuse is the presence of consent. In my Foundation classes and my books The Kink Embrace and New Bonds, I discuss the anatomy of consent because having this key knowledge is so important. We need to know what consent means to us and those we […]

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Advice - Relationships

Riggers Are Not Gods!

Every once in a while, I hear an accident has happened, a consent issue raised, or someone is harmed in rope. I’ve written around this issue before, but I feel a little reminder is needed for people in rope: Riggers aren’t gods! Riggers are human. We make mistakes. We misjudge a situation. We miss something […]

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Classes

Bristol Femdom Workshops

Saturday 1st July 2023, Bristol, UK SOLD OUT! Bristol Femdom Workshops is an educational event to explore the Femdom lifestyle and play. Anyone identifying as a woman dominant and any gender submissive is welcome to come along. The event is held in a fully accessible venue just north of central Bristol. Exact details are given […]

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Advice - Your Rope

Posting Content: A Few Tips

I recently found myself in a position where I needed to reflect on the content I create and where it gets posted. I have created art with other people, and I always actively seek consent on what gets posted where, and how. I ask: This issue gets more complicated, though. I have recently asked two […]

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Advice - Your Rope

The Fetishisation of Suspension Ties

I think this term in the title is valid. Suspension ties are being fetishised. They are being promoted as the best thing in rope spaces. It looks delicious and thirsty people want a mouthful . It is a goal many riggers and bottoms aspire towards. There is a lot of validation of this when we […]

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Advice - Running Events

Why Kink Education Matters

A prevalent myth in the kink community is that “new people need to go to classes to learn about the lifestyle”. That is obviously true. But there’s a subtle implication that more seasoned players know what they’re doing and don’t need classes. They’ve read a few books. Know the lingo. Found people to play with. […]