Is “Shibari” racist? What about kinbaku? What aspects of our rope practice, is in fact, racist? Shibari. Kinbaku. Alien words to most people. These are Japanese words from the Japanese culture of rope bondage. Shibari means knots in direct translation. Kinbaku means tight binding. I see so many people using these terms, even as their […]
When we first join rope and kink spaces, we often feel very nervous. We don’t know what to expect nor how the people we meet may respond to us. We seek validation and acceptance of who we are, and perhaps people to play with. We often want to learn about the lifestyle and issues around […]
When I moved into my home, I found a rose quartz in a pond in my garden. For a long while it decorated my kitchen window seal. Then I discovered rope and I found a new use for it. I saw many photos of similar stones being used in rope bondage. It is often used […]
As a person with Post Covid19 Syndrome (Long Covid), fatigue is one of my main symptoms that has left a prolonged impact on my daily life. It’s affected my ability to do basic actions, work, play and engage with other people. It is very similar to other post viral conditions like CFS/ME, POTS, Lyme disease […]
I was recently asked a very good question by someone relatively new to rope, regarding how to manage the emotional impacts whilst untying a rope bottom. In that discussion, and in many similar ones with other people, it occurred to me just how little emphasis we put on the untying process. Which is sad. Because, […]
As someone who ties different people with different physical and mental health issues as well as self tying, I am very aware of the impact a person’s mental health and well-being can have on the scenes we create. Top, bottom or self tying. It’s not always easy, because we are human and have various life […]
As someone with long covid, my pain and energy levels have been drastically affected by the virus. It’s tricky because they are still trying to understand the disease and how it relates to other conditions like CFS/ME, MCAS, POTS and fibromyalgia. A lot of people in our community are affected by chronic pain and associated […]
I was in a class with DevynStone on building M/s relationships. He explained his process and at one point in discussing consent, he said how we all have our own consent. I love that! Whenever I’ve taught consent or gotten into those in depth discussions with people, I’m always mindful of just how each of us look […]
I am sometimes asked how I maintain my jute rope. Below is a brief guide of processes I use and/or recommend. Washing Jute Either wash by hand, or place your ropes in a pillow case and use a washing machine on a cold cycle with a non biological detergent. The pillow case will prevent any […]
Rope play is only 100% safe when you are completely aware of all the risks of whatever you choose to do, and you mitigate as fully as possible against those risks, factoring in all possible circumstamces and accidents that could happen. This is not easy. Nigh on impossible to achieve, in fact. Rope tops and […]