I recently found myself in a position where I needed to reflect on the content I create and where it gets posted. I have created art with other people, and I always actively seek consent on what gets posted where, and how. I ask: This issue gets more complicated, though. I have recently asked two […]
I think this term in the title is valid. Suspension ties are being fetishised. They are being promoted as the best thing in rope spaces. It looks delicious and thirsty people want a mouthful . It is a goal many riggers and bottoms aspire towards. There is a lot of validation of this when we […]
I sure as hell won’t suspend you! I get strangers asking me this all the time. People I’ve met maybe once, if at all, messaged a few times. They love my profiles, enjoy my writings, adore my blog, want to be the person in my photos. They take the bold step of asking me, because […]
I’m so excited to announce the publication of my new book: “The Kink Embrace : A Foundation Guide to Kink Play and Relationships”. This is the book I wish I had when I first joined the kink community. It contains lots of useful information and insights into the kink lifestyle Start reading it for free […]
Is “Shibari” racist? What about kinbaku? What aspects of our rope practice, is in fact, racist? Shibari. Kinbaku. Alien words to most people. These are Japanese words from the Japanese culture of rope bondage. Shibari means knots in direct translation. Kinbaku means tight binding. I see so many people using these terms, even as their […]
People can do as they choose. They can take whatever risks they want, and need to make themselves aware of those risks amd mitigate them accordingly. They can negotiate whatever scene they like, so long as they have the mutual trust and strong communication skills they need to do so. They can be motivated for […]
When we first join rope and kink spaces, we often feel very nervous. We don’t know what to expect nor how the people we meet may respond to us. We seek validation and acceptance of who we are, and perhaps people to play with. We often want to learn about the lifestyle and issues around […]
I’m writing this as an events organiser and facilitator. I write this as someone who has been active on my local scene for six and a half years… I remember joining my local community to find friends and a potential partner. I wanted to connect with like minded people and have fun. I read books […]
Rope is like sex…. People want sex for different reasons. Some people want sex, some don’t. Some people like sex a certain way. People only want sex with a certain type of person they are attracted to. It depends on who you are with, if you want sex at any given moment. Sex is an […]
When I moved into my home, I found a rose quartz in a pond in my garden. For a long while it decorated my kitchen window seal. Then I discovered rope and I found a new use for it. I saw many photos of similar stones being used in rope bondage. It is often used […]