A prevalent myth in the kink community is that “new people need to go to classes to learn about the lifestyle”. That is obviously true. But there’s a subtle implication that more seasoned players know what they’re doing and don’t need classes. They’ve read a few books. Know the lingo. Found people to play with. […]
No one likes to be called racist. Well, except those proud racists, but they often only hate one particular group of people (eg black people, “foreigners”, Jewish people, Muslims, etc) where colour, religion or ethnicity is specifically targeted in some way. Regardless, it is still bigoted to hate on another group of people. When people […]
I know, the title is a tad silly. Rope events vary hugely and “running” any event involves many facets working together. A follower sent me a message on Instagram this week asking about how to get started. He and his wife love rope but can’t find anything near them in India. So, I thought with […]
As a “disabled” person myself, I have found it disheartening that so many rope and kink events are not accessible to differently bodied people. Covid disabled me, which has been quite a journey in of itself. Pre-covid, I hadn’t fully appreciated how important this issue is. I have tried my utmost to make my events […]
As someone that runs events, a person with post graduate qualifications in leadership and management, this is something that I have been reflecting on for quite some time: how can kink community leaders run spaces in a way that serves their community and acts in the best interest of all? I’ve lost count of the […]
In an ideal world, we can all turn up to events and not face any racism, misogyny, homophobia or any form of bigotry and we all have a fabulously kinkilicious time. Most spaces are welcoming and event organisers typically do their best to make spaces as inclusive as possible. But sometimes that’s not enough. POC […]
By people of colour I mean people that are not white. Visually, people of colour have darker skin tones due to pigmentation in their skin. And yet, for centuries, the pigmentation in their skin has been enough to victimise, terrorise, enslave, demonise and abuse people of colour. In the wake of the murder of George […]