I was recently asked a very good question by someone relatively new to rope, regarding how to manage the emotional impacts whilst untying a rope bottom. In that discussion, and in many similar ones with other people, it occurred to me just how little emphasis we put on the untying process. Which is sad. Because, […]
I have had a challenging week. I’ve had to engage in some very difficult conversations with people I work with, play with and even sorting my home finances. All these conversations were important in their own ways. All life altering. But I got through the week remembering some basic ethical principles and facilitating my communication […]
Polyamory has entered popular culture in some countries, particularly in eurocentric ones. It’s being mentioned and explored more in TV dramas, and now dating sites like Feeld support polyamory structures. In a backlash to traditional Christian values, people are rejecting the cultural norms to remain monogamous, or at least serially monogamous, in cis-gendered heterosexual marriages. […]
It was brought to my attention that there is a lack of resources for cis het men that identify as a submissive, particularly for black men. I remember several years ago questioning this disparity, noticing that the vast majority of books for male submissives read like porn and lack any depth or insight. Even good […]
As someone who ties different people with different physical and mental health issues as well as self tying, I am very aware of the impact a person’s mental health and well-being can have on the scenes we create. Top, bottom or self tying. It’s not always easy, because we are human and have various life […]
A couple of days ago, I came across a post on Instagram about restorative justice. It suggested justice happens outside of punishment, or at least is better that way. It was flowered with anti police rhetoric and guilded in good intentions. But I disagree. I fundamentally disagree. I know this opinion may upset some folks. […]
In recent conversations with a few people, I’ve been mulling over issues around submissives and bottoms not wanting to be seen as a “doormat”. I’m not referring to the trampling kink… hence me, rather cheekily, posting a trampling photo with one of my rope bottoms. That’s fun. It’s negotiated. Everyone gets a need fulfilled by […]
As someone that runs events, a person with post graduate qualifications in leadership and management, this is something that I have been reflecting on for quite some time: how can kink community leaders run spaces in a way that serves their community and acts in the best interest of all? I’ve lost count of the […]
Using other textures and mediums to develop rope experiences and art. I’e been able to try mixing different things with rope over the past few weeks or so. Playing around with texture, pressure and temperature in particular on myself and my rope bottoms.
As someone with long covid, my pain and energy levels have been drastically affected by the virus. It’s tricky because they are still trying to understand the disease and how it relates to other conditions like CFS/ME, MCAS, POTS and fibromyalgia. A lot of people in our community are affected by chronic pain and associated […]