Occasionally, there is scene drama and someone is accusing someone of abuse. And then the other person says they are the victim. So, people don’t know what to do and keep quiet. And the abuser gets away with it, again. It’s not good enough… Something to consider is that an abuser will shift blame and […]
I have a ban list for my events, but it is not public. On the list are people that we, as a team, know have a history of abuse and harassment. All of us have been working in our community for a while and are respected, so people feel comfortable to disclose to us what […]
My new book Living Rope is out now! Available on Amazon and Kindle. GET YOUR COPY NOW! Living Rope explores the many facets of rope play, delving into the reasons and intentions of rope players, based on the author’s decade long experience. It also describes Dea Nexa’s approach to consent and relationships, and how identity […]
You don’t have to do anything that you don’t want. No one should ever be pressured into an act or course of action. No one should be manipulated into being bound, hit, called names, dress a certain way, act a certain way, at all. Ever. Don’t do it. Without out consent, the freely given, enthusiastic, […]
I have found there is a strong air of romanticism in some rope photography that I have seen. By romanticism, I do not mean the artistic period. I mean the feelings of romance and other worldliness of rope play, a step or two away from the reality of everyday life. Very often we see partially […]
The Kink Embrace is a valuable resource for anyone interested in kink or the kink lifestyle. The book explores the foundations of building kink experiences and relationships from an ethical and moral perspective. Each chapter goes into some depth of the common themes that kinky people encounter as they navigate the lifestyle. It covers fundamental […]